Implementing Parenting with Love for Children
#ParentingwithLove - For most parents, raising children is an everyday learning process. Parents often continue to find out the best pattern for raising their children and adopt a parenting style that suits their children's needs. Starting from a survey conducted by Wahana Visi Indonesia (WVI) on a group of children and their parents, WVI comes to help the community to find a parenting scheme called parenting with love that is appropriate for the family.
Aniel Dawan, Faith and Development Manager of WVI said that PDC is packaged in a module to help WVI assisted communities to apply it directly to children.
"The PDC module is a means to support families to understand parenting, to shape a child's spirituality, and improve children's welfare. Also to teach how to form a complete family," said Aniel.
The different parenting patterns in the community make parenting with love pattern need to be known by parents. Professor of Psychology of the University of Indonesia named Prof. Frieda Mangunsong in a discussion on the web seminar with WVI explained that these different parenting styles can be formed due to various factors such as education, religion, culture, age, character and socioeconomic status.
"Parents are our teachers, the way they think, respond, communicate with other people, without we realize it is what we are familiar with. That's what we learn, and we unconsciously or consciously apply it to our parenting patterns,” Frieda explained.
Applying parenting with love pattern, according to Frieda, must be done together with a partner. Giving equal love from both parents makes the child not necessarily choose one parent to be a mainstay in difficult times. The cohesiveness of husband and wife makes children feel accompanied and grow happily.
"When we become a family, there must be cooperation, cooperation must be balanced, passionate, gentle, and loving. That is the basic key to make the pillars in the family a stronger foundation," she added.
Similar to Frieda, added Aniel, the role of a married couple is very important in the PDC pattern. That is why this couple should at least come to terms with their past. The process of healing past wounds that have been received from the parents of a married couple, will allow the couple to channel further affection to their children.
“Parents need space for catharsis, to raise problems, or to get love. Dialogue spaces between children and parents should be created as often as possible to find out if there is anything wrong in our lives (parents)," said Aniel.
Affection-based parenting can be applied by anyone. Being familiar with each family member's love language can make this parenting style easier. That way, parents and children will find it easier to express their love in verbal and nonverbal forms.
Written by: Putri ianne Barus, Communications Officer of Wahana Visi Indonesia
